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Yang’s Victory Over Tiger Transcends Golf

fatherhood-fridayI love golf. Even though I’ve participated in athletics throughout my life (football, baseball, wrestling, swimming) to me, golf is the purest contest in sports. I took up the game a few years before becoming a stay-at-home dad (SAHD). The first time I played, I sucked but I was seduced by the game’s nuances and intricacies. To improve, I played five days a week. I practiced several hours a day and my scores began to reflect my effort. I went from a 20-plus handicap down to a single digit index. For those who don’t play, this is a pretty good achievement. Once kids entered the picture, I turned my attention from golf to changing diapers. It was a natural poopgression.

There are so many appealing aspects to golf, and I could wax poetic about many of them, but the one characteristic I most admire is how golf provides a perfect metaphor for life.

How so, Steely Dad? What the hell have you been smoking and what sort of transcendental bullshit are you feeding us?

On Sunday at the PGA Championship, in what may be perhaps the greatest upset in golf history, Y.E. Yang, the 110th best golfer in the world, beat Tiger Woods, the world’s perennial number one player. How can #110 ever beat #1?

By most (if not all) accounts, Woods should have beat Yang and done so handily. Yang started playing golf at 19 years of age; Woods started at 19 days old. Ever since Tiger displayed his precocious golf swing on the Mike Douglas show, he has been surrounded by the game’s best talent, professionals who’ve provided him with sound advice and counsel. Today, Tiger has the money and influence that affords him access to the best swing coaches, the best mental coaches, the best facilities, the best equipment, the best caddie, the best nutritionist, the best doctors, the best personal trainers, the best of everything. Yang doesn’t and despite these glaring inequities, this David still beat golf’s Goliath.

So really, how can #110 beat #1? It doesn’t seem possible. Surely the PGA must have redistributed some of Tiger’s talent to make it a fair match, right? Perhaps the PGA took some of Tiger’s winnings, put the money in a pool to be redistributed to other players thereby ensuring fair and equitable access to the best resources? Maybe Tiger had to play with inferior equipment, play from different tees or take extra strokes. How else to explain it?

What? You say that didn’t happen? You say Yang beat Tiger with his own ability, without the PGA manufacturing the circumstances or the outcome? You don’t honestly expect me to believe that Yang beat Tiger with sheer determination, gratuitous guts and singular focus, do you?

Plus, don’t you agree that Tiger doesn’t deserve to enjoy being the world’s number one golfer? He doesn’t deserve to win 50 percent of the tournaments he enters. Tiger doesn’t deserve to win 14 out of 14 majors when he has at least a share of the lead after 54 holes. Obviously Tiger couldn’t achieve his number-one status through talent, sacrifice and hard work, right? He’s the best for one reason: he’s lucky. The only difference between #1 and #110 is luck. It’s the only logical answer, right?

Everyday, we hear this type of argument made about the society in which we live; that the wealthy guy enjoys his status, not as a result of sacrifice and hard work but because he was luckier than the poor guy; that it’s impossible for the poor guy to rise above without handouts and entitlements and redistribution of wealth. So let me ask you. Why do we accept these notions as truths in life but not in sport? Why can it be that in golf we enjoy watching two guys with different backgrounds, different levels of talent, different cultures, different financial resources, different languages, compete in a contest in which one guy clearly has an advantage, and completely accept the outcome whatever it may be? How is it that we accept imperfect circumstances in sport but in life many insist that society has an obligation to manufacture fair results? They corrupt the human compass, an internal mechanism whose needle perpetually points “due persistence,” for they fail to recognize that in life, as in golf, it’s possible for a Yang to beat a Tiger. In their Utopian vision of society, no one would watch a single sporting event (OK, fake wrestling aside) because outcomes would be contrived. And just as sports would lose fans under such conditions, so too would society lose great and fertile minds.

“Oh, but man is inherently evil and the strong will take advantage of the meek,” some make us fear. Well, not in a civil society. Think of the PGA as the government (the USGA is the actual governing body but please afford me some artistic license). It has a set of rules and each player (think of them as members of society) has a right and incentive to do his best. Who enforces the rules? Did you know that in golf each player is expected to penalize himself? In other words, players are largely self-governed. However, should a player neglect to call a penalty on himself, he would be an anathema, shamed and pilloried. He would lose all credibility for he dishonored the game, its values and traditions. Is this expectation of self-governance too much to demand of a great society? If golfers can do it, why can’t the rest of us? Are we not capable of answering to a higher moral standard?

When circumstances are manipulated to achieve a desired result, it crushes the spirit of every Yang out there who dreams of beating a Tiger. If before the final round of the PGA Championship, the commissioner said to Yang, “Dude, there’s no chance you’re going to win this thing. Tiger has all these advantages that, quite frankly, aren’t fair to the other players. The ONLY way you can win is by accepting our help.” Do you know what would happen? It would destroy Yang’s competitive spirit, it would shred his belief in himself and it would enslave Yang’s mind that he cannot now, or ever, do it on his own. Yang would feel as though he is entitled to the victory, that he doesn’t have to earn it, that the world of golf somehow owes him special consideration. If the PGA began to manipulate variables in order to manufacture results, #110 would never have to work as hard as #1, the quality of the competition would dissolve and no one would watch or care because the outcome has been established. We would never be able to dream, “what if,” because the “if” would have already been answered.

If you watched Yang’s victory like I did, you probably said, “Right on!” But if you discovered that Yang was given special accommodation to improve his odds of winning, I bet you’d feel cheated of that beautiful moment when you were able to believe that anything is truly possible.

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  • Anonymous

    One of the things I love most about sports is that it is a pure meritocracy. The guys who put the most points on the board (or employs the fewest strokes is the winner).

    And on any given day, playing by the rules on a level playing field, anyone can be best.

    And if I learned that someone received special accommodation, I’d be pissed. Just the way I’m pissed when I learn an athlete or team wins by breaking the rules. That part of the metaphor also applies to life.

    Nice post.

  • http://surprisedmom.blogspot.com/ SurprisedMom

    To your last sentence, I can only say yes.

    Thoughtful post. Thanks.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    I couldn't agree more, Tom. I think this is so apropos to society in general. I don't understand how in sports we have guys who are at a disadvantage but somehow pull it together to win. Why can't we allow the same thing to happen in society?

  • http://surprisedmom.blogspot.com/ SurprisedMom

    To your last sentence, I can only say yes.Thoughtful post. Thanks.

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  • http://www.pjmullen.com PJ Mullen

    Look at you and your big metaphor :)

    While I think we like to root for winners, and Tiger is no exception given his story of hard work and dedication to his sport, I did think it was pretty cool when Yang won. I will admit that I was rooting for Tiger to win because I want to see him get closer to breaking Jack and Arnie's records. It can be a pretty special thing to watch someone operate at an elite level, but like you said, there is still a good chance he could lose even if it is a 50/50 proposition.

    I don't watch golf and I don't particular care for it, but I certainly understand where you were going with your example. In my younger days I would have skipped to the 19th hole. Personally, I'm like a walking ghost of Lombardi, so I'll see your golf for life metaphor with the old adage “Any Given Sunday”.

    On a level playing field, even if skill or talent is uneven, anyone can win. To quote the immortal Jimmy McGinty “you gotta have heart, miles and miles of heart'. OK, I can't stop there, so I'll leave you with a Boomerism: “And THAT'S why they play the game”.

    Don't worry, I'll stop before I get to the old Yoda “Do, or do not, there is no try” Oops. Sorry, it's an illness. Really. Maybe there is a government program that can 'help' me. :)

  • C_Kent

    Wow, there's more meat in this post than a Texas cattle ranch. Where to begin? You're premise couldn't be more on the money here. I like Tiger, but I am drawn to root for the underdog every time. Why? Because I think people identify with the person or team whose hard work is about to payoff.

    At the same time, there's a group who roots for the underdog because they harbor a strong distaste for anyone who's successful. I'm generalizing, but many of those people are cynics, either from lacking a personal work-ethic or from working hard but never achieving success as a result. The former wants a level playing field in life because they are not willing to earn it themselves; the later feel that if the cannot achieve, no one should.

    I grew up in that second group. Work hard, but don't expect to get anything from it. This mentality contained a hopelessness that could crush a spirit, and it also resulted in an attitude that rich, successful people somehow cheated to get where they were. Really, it was a paradox in the American spirit. Work for the American Dream, but if you reach it, then you did so dishonestly.

    But I've experienced success from hard work, and it dawned on me that it didn't require cheating to get there. I'm also glad that I can tell my kids that persistence and hard work will pay off (and a little luck helps too).

    I'm rambling. Sorry. But this is a great post!

  • weaselmomma

    This was great. You and I should have drinks sometime and not in a make your angry kind of way.

  • theteachertom

    Where sports metaphors tend to break down is that in sport we can all agree about the rules. They're written down and by stepping onto the links we're agreeing to abide by them. In society, there's no such agreement.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    Thanks for reading, SurprisedMom!

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    In a civil society there is such an agreement; it's an agreement to respect your unalienable rights and those of your fellow citizen.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    Thanks for the comment, PJ. Your insight is certainly, insightful :) But you're exactly right: on any given Sunday and that's why they play the game. Anyone can win when they put their mind to it. I'm not saying they're going to win all the time but when you manufacture results, it kills the spirit.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    That is an awesome comment, Ron! Very deep, man. I've always said (and perhaps someone before me has said it as well): Persistence is often the difference between success and failure. I'd rather fail trying then never have tried at all. I'm not financially rich and probably never will be but I don't begrudge those who are as some sort of evil cabal.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    Anytime, any place WeaselMomma! Just keep me away from gin; it tends to get me angry :)

  • C_Kent

    Deep like a kiddie pool – but thanks. I can't tell you all the times fear has kept me from trying something which resulted in regret. But then there were the times when I pushed and did it – what a feeling. And being financially well off… I once was there and I can tell you, it has it's advantages, but it's also not all it's cracked up to be either – especially come tax time.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    Like I always (try) to tell myself: I'd rather try and not succeed than to never have tried at all. I have ultimate respect for you, dude! I, too, was once financially stable. I was single, made great dough, partied all the time. It was great. But like you said, it's not all it's cracked up to be. I'd rather have my family and live in a tent “down by the river” than have that “other” life.

  • http://LifeofaNewDad otter321

    You went a little deep for me although I think you are right. To me sports are so wonderful because you never know for sure what will happen. A victory like this is exactly why sports are fun. Golf is certainly a different animal. I have been to a couple events and it amazes me that the only thing separating the fans from the athletes is a rope. Even the fans are held to a higher standard. Maybe I just drink to much when I go to sporting events.

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    I hear ya, Otter. I was stretching the cerebral cortex just to make sure it still worked (years of Yo Gabba Gabba can often make you wonder).

  • janiewoods

    I LOVE golf!! But I also think that Tiger is on a downward trend. He'll come back, but I would give it two years. Remember, if you drink don't drive, and for God's sake don't putt…

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    Golf is the grandest game…EVER!

  • http://www.steelydad.com steelydad

    Golf is the grandest game…EVER!

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